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 So how do we avoid the trap of conflating your colleagues' respect for you as a researcher with your own self-respect as a human being? For what it's worth, I'd expect that this trap occurs in all of the creative professions. Indeed, as much as academics like to think of ourselves as unique creatures, none of the sources of stress in research are unique to the job of research. Perhaps that is a topic for another time, but it does not help us here: Knowing that our stress is shared is not alone enough to relieve it.
 
 Another blog might tell you: Keep a professional distance. The way to  avoid conflating your research success to your self-worth is to think of research as a job rather than a calling. But that's not the advice that I will give, because if you want to do good work, sometimes you need
-to take things personally. As the Captain says, sometimes [you need your pain](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WLzJAebfEIg). So I'll ask the question differently.
+to take things personally. As the great Captain says, sometimes [you need your pain](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WLzJAebfEIg). So I'll ask the question differently.
 How do we keep our passion for research without harming our mental health?
 
 The mental tricks that work a bit for me, may not work for you. So I'll list a
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 One strategy is to focus on the fun, for example, by treating a tenure-track faculty job [like a seven-year postdoc](https://blogs.scientificamerican.com/guest-blog/the-awesomest-7-year-postdoc-or-how-i-learned-to-stop-worrying-and-love-the-tenure-track-faculty-life/). Richard Feynman has a wonderful story about [recapturing fun in his research](https://www.physics.ohio-state.edu/~kilcup/262/feynman.html). One always wonders if Feynman's stories are exaggerated, but the principle of countering stress by fun is surely sound.
 
-Another good strategy is to have backup sources of self-worth. Academic jobs are naturally set up this way. Even if no one reads my papers the minute after I die, or frankly, the minute after they're written, I've still taught hundreds of students about fundamental knowledge that has helped them, if only a little. That's another source of professional self-worth. Or of course, one can seek self-worth from being a good child, parent, sibling, and friend. Both of these --- teaching and family --- are instances of a more general point. **We should find worth in our relationships with other people, rather than our accomplishments which come at the expense of others.**
+Another good strategy is to have backup sources of self-worth. Academic jobs are naturally set up this way. Even if no one reads my papers the minute after I die, or frankly, the minute after they're written, I've still taught hundreds of students about fundamental knowledge that has helped them, if only a little. That's another source of professional self-worth. Or of course, one can seek self-worth from being a good child, parent, sibling, and friend. Both of these --- teaching and family --- are instances of a more general point. *We should find worth in our relationships with other people.*
 
 Another strategy is simply to have truly excessive reserves of self-confidence, so that whenever the roller coaster goes down, you can tell yourself with absolute conviction that the roller coaster will go up again, because by god you are brilliant enough to push it up again all by yourself. I know I'm making this sound ridiculous, but I've read an interview with a Nobelist who basically said that lots of other people doubted him, but he never doubted himself. Whether it was bravado or truth I don't know, but hey, if it works for him.