fix(clustering/rpc): dao hooks of upsert/delete/update_by are missed

[StarlightIbuki]

Summary

The dao hook does not handle upsert_by event thus PUT method requests are missed and not propagated to DPs.

Checklist

• The Pull Request has tests
• A changelog file has been created under changelog/unreleased/kong or skip-changelog label added on PR if changelog is unnecessary. README.md
• There is a user-facing docs PR against https://github.com/Kong/docs.konghq.com - PUT DOCS PR HERE

Issue reference

Fix KAG-5734 and KAG-5551
Related ticket: KAG-5723

[chronolaw]

Let's wait #13805 merged.

[chronolaw]

Should we set the target branch to master?

[team-gateway-bot]

Cherry-pick failed for master, because it was unable to cherry-pick the commit(s).

Please cherry-pick the changes locally.

git remote add upstream https://github.com/kong/kong-ee
git fetch upstream master
git worktree add -d .worktree/cherry-pick-13819-to-master-to-upstream upstream/master
cd .worktree/cherry-pick-13819-to-master-to-upstream
git checkout -b cherry-pick-13819-to-master-to-upstream
ancref=$(git merge-base 6cb8235b72052173fb484d85475b65f193a85831 1c89c331aba960f882a76bbf07ee40529fdb227c)
git cherry-pick -x $ancref..1c89c331aba960f882a76bbf07ee40529fdb227c