Add log message when worker lock timeouts get large (#18124)

This is to help track down a possible, but very rare, worker deadlock
that was seen on matrix.org.
In theory, you could work back from an instance of these new logs to the
approximate time when the lock was obtained and focus the diagnostic
efforts there.

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Author: devonh

changelog.d/18124.misc

@@ -0,0 +1 @@
+Add log message when worker lock timeouts get large.

synapse/handlers/worker_lock.py

@@ -19,6 +19,7 @@
 #
 #
 
+import logging
 import random
 from types import TracebackType
 from typing import (
@@ -269,6 +270,10 @@ async def __aexit__(
     def _get_next_retry_interval(self) -> float:
         next = self._retry_interval
         self._retry_interval = max(5, next * 2)
+        if self._retry_interval > 5 * 2 ^ 7:  # ~10 minutes
+            logging.warning(
+                f"Lock timeout is getting excessive: {self._retry_interval}s. There may be a deadlock."
+            )
         return next * random.uniform(0.9, 1.1)
 
 
@@ -344,4 +349,8 @@ async def __aexit__(
     def _get_next_retry_interval(self) -> float:
         next = self._retry_interval
         self._retry_interval = max(5, next * 2)
+        if self._retry_interval > 5 * 2 ^ 7:  # ~10 minutes
+            logging.warning(
+                f"Lock timeout is getting excessive: {self._retry_interval}s. There may be a deadlock."
+            )
         return next * random.uniform(0.9, 1.1)