connections frequently time out to remote clients with many connections

[CSEMike]

this might be related to one side being set to limited and the other not -- or search floods delaying the handshake message from being sent. (might searches be forwarded / build up a queue before the handshake is sent?)

example logs:

one side:
11:54:17: Connection attempt initiated
11:54:17: Trying cached location: {removed}
11:54:17: Looking up friend location in CHT (secret loc)
11:54:17: Looking up friend location in DHT(secret loc)
11:54:17: Resolved friend location from: UDP:CHT (secret loc): {removed} age=15 minutes
11:54:17: Skipping ip:port from UDP:CHT (secret loc): {removed} (already tried)
11:54:40 7976b9: got exception: transport closed (returned -1)
11:54:40 7976b9: disconnected

other side:
11:53:45: Connection attempt initiated
11:53:45: Trying cached location: {removed}
11:53:45: Looking up friend location in CHT (secret loc)
11:53:45: Looking up friend location in DHT(secret loc)
11:53:45: Resolved friend location from: UDP:CHT (secret loc): {removed} age=8 minutes
11:53:45: Skipping ip:port from UDP:CHT (secret loc): {removed} (already tried)
11:54:05 3eace41f: handshake timeout, closing
11:54:05 3eace41f: disconnected

[CSEMike]

handshake timeout may be an osx problem only